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Seldom do two people in a relationship understand that having space between one another is the mightiest recipe for success. Most modern-day young adults in exclusive relationships believe that they need to leech onto one another in order to maintain a bond. What most people don't understand is that this constant dependancy and redundant encounters leave a relationship lifeless after a few months. Everything starts to pale in comparison to the early phases of the relationship. In response to that, most couples decide to spice things up in various ways. Sometimes those ways work and sometimes they don't. In my opinion, two people in a relationship need to maintain their own space and be their own person, not defined by the confines of their relationship; only then can they grow. They grow separately but in complement with each other.

Gibran just about sums it up in "The Prophet". Here's an excerpt:

"Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

Masterpiece of words. Live by this passage and the meanderings of your relationship shall cease to exist.